The first of anything seems to be a scary moment. Think about it: Your first day of high school, the first day of college, your first dating partner, your first kiss, your first time on an airplane. It seems like the first brings with it the uncertainty as to what exactly is going to happen. That uncertainty can make us feel uncomfortable.
But is there anything as scary as taking that first step to something that you want to accomplish? Seriously, is there ever such a terror as that first step that we need to take? Perhaps the greatest wisdom to ever come from loony toons is that phrase “watch that first step, it’s a doozy!” And what a doozy it is! In reality it’s not so much the step itself that’s the doozy, it’s more the fact that there are things that come while we are making that step: the fear, the uncertainty, the doubt, the self-deprecation, these things make it the doozy.
I guess I’ll start out with myself for example. Here’s my first blog post. I’m 27 years old, I’ve went to school for approximately 22 years of my life, I’ve always written papers, I’ve even written a dissertation! But seriously, this first blog post is by far the scariest writing I have ever done. Most likely because it’s a new venture, a new thing that I’m trying, and this first step is a doozy. (Still by the end of reading this I hope you get some type of courage to be able to proceed in what you are starting)
One of the things that hold us back from starting is the desire to do it perfectly. Inside of some of us there is this thought that I need to be better or perfect in order to begin, because I don’t want to make mistakes. The truth is that mistakes are going to be made and as we take this journey we are going to need to be willing to make mistakes, and to use them as opportunities to think of new things for our own growth. What if the mp3 had waited until it beat out the quality of the CD before it was released? What if the Macintosh had waited until all the kinks were worked out before being introduced? What if a parent were to wait until they were ready before they had children? (I’m a parent and I’m still not ready). If perfection or even perceived “proficiency” were to be attained before beginning, nothing would have ever been started by any human being.
The fact of the matter is that there are things that can be done to overcome that scary first step to whatever it may be. I used some of these principles in developing this blog post. Before I started writing, I wondered, how on earth am I going to be able to get a blog post out of this subject, I really thought that I wasn’t going to have enough to get it going. I thought to myself what do I know? How do I know this is even going to be helpful? Who is even going to read it? What if it’s just not good enough? I never thought that I would be able to get anything out of it! But then I used the principles that I’m going to share with you to overcome these thoughts in my mind and to get it going. I’ve used these principles in numerous places in the past: in starting businesses, in starting books, in starting this blog. I never knew that I would have more than a blogs post amount for this. Even starting this blog I always wondered, how on earth am I going to find enough to just keep writing? Now using these principles, I’ve been able to get going once again. I’m going to go more in detail with these principles, but here are just a few:
- Silence your critical voice
- The Uselessness of Self-Deprecation
- There is no failure, just learning
- The answer to the question, What if things don’t go as planned?
- Carry your fear, don’t be controlled by it
- Humility instead of uncertainty
- The 5-minutes anything goes trick
Of course this is not going to be the end of the discussion on overcoming that scary first step. Because of this I want to hear from you. First I want you to comment about what you believe it is that keeps people from taking that dreaded first step. Second I want to know from you what you believe is some good advice on how to overcome the dreaded first step. And Finally, if there was anything useful in this post, please let me know what it is.
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